Aṅguttara Nikāya - The Numerical Discourses

7: The Book of the Sevens

36. A Friend (1)

1"Bhikkhus, one should associate with a friend who possesses seven factors. What seven? (1) He gives what is hard to give. (2) He does what is hard to do. (3) He patiently endures what is hard to endure. (4) He reveals his secrets to you. (5) He preserves your secrets. (6) He does not forsake you when you are in trouble. (7) He does not roughly despise you. [n.1490] Khīṇena nātimaññati. I translate on the supposition that khīṇena is an adverb meaning "hurtfully, roughly" (see DOP sv khīṇa2). Mp, however, explains the line on the assumption that khīṇena means "in (time of) loss, when wealth has been exhausted": "When one's wealth is exhausted, he does not despise one because of one's loss. He does not think too highly of himself and look down on the other" (tassa bhoge khīṇe tena khayena taṁ nātimaññati, tasmiṁ omānaṁ attani ca atimānaṁ na karoti). On Mp's interpretation, though, I do not see how this factor would differ from the preceding one. One should associate with a friend who possesses these seven factors."

2A friend gives what is hard to give,
and he does what is hard to do.
He forgives you your harsh words
and endures what is hard to endure.

3He tells you his secrets,
yet he preserves your secrets.
He does not forsake you in difficulties,
nor does he roughly despise you.

4The person here in whom
these qualities are found is a friend.
One desiring a friend
should resort to such a person.

1"Sattahi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabbo. Katamehi sattahi? Duddadaṁ dadāti, dukkaraṁ karoti, dukkhamaṁ khamati, guyhamassa āvi karoti, guyhamassa pariguhati, āpadāsu na jahati, khīṇena nātimaññati. Imehi kho, bhikkhave, sattahi aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabboti.

2Duddadaṁ dadāti mitto,
dukkarañcāpi kubbati;
Athopissa duruttāni,
khamati dukkhamāni ca.

3Guyhañca tassa akkhāti,
guyhassa parigūhati;
Āpadāsu na jahāti,
khīṇena nātimaññati.

4Yamhi etāni ṭhānāni,
saṁvijjantīdha puggale;
So mitto mittakāmena,
bhajitabbo tathāvidho"ti.


Pañcamaṁ.

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